How to Talk to Your Children About Divorce

For children, it can be challenging to watch their parents go through a divorce–especially if the divorce is not amicable. If you and your spouse are divorcing, it's important to know what questions to ask your children, how to answer any questions they might have for you, and how to minimize the impact your divorce will have on their lives. 

While you might not want to share every aspect of the divorce with your children, it's important that they are kept in the loop during this time and that they can feel like their emotional needs are still being met. 

Here are some suggestions on how to talk to your children about divorce:

Plan on what you’re going to say: When discussing divorce with your children, approach the conversation with sensitivity and mindfulness. Plan what you are going to say ahead of time and take time to gather your thoughts before saying anything. Consider their age, emotional readiness, and maturity level, as this will shape how you communicate with them.

While it might not feel like there's a "good time" to tell your children about the divorce, sharing the news with them sooner rather than later can be beneficial. Be honest and straightforward, and use age-appropriate language to explain the basics of divorce. Encourage the children to ask questions and reassure them that you will be there to support them through this time. 

Keep it as simple as possible for younger children: Use simpler language and avoid providing too much information that might confuse your younger children. Give them repeated reassurance that the decision has nothing to do with them and let them know you will be there to answer their questions as they come.

Be compassionate: Divorce can be a traumatic experience, so being extra caring and compassionate during this time can help your children navigate this new time in their lives. Maintain open communication and encourage them to share their feelings and emotions without fear.

Emphasize stability: Stability is the key when dealing with the painful divorce process. You can provide stability by letting your children know about the plans for their living arrangements, school, and regular activities. Maintaining some of the same routines and activities can also be helpful during this time.

Get Help from An Experienced Paragould Divorce Attorney Today

If you are facing a divorce in Arkansas, the Graham Law Firm PLLC can offer you the guidance you need during this time. Lead attorney Lauren Graham is ready to protect your interests and help you through your divorce so that you can focus on the well-being of your children. 

Get in touch online or call (870) 586-5753 to get started.